Montoya Major, 23, uprooted her entire life to move to Florida for a dual degree program at the University of Nova Southeastern. Hours away from family, friends, and all other physical stuff!Cal support group, she knew the plan would be daunting but she never planned to get pregnant just five months into it.
When I found out I was pregnant, my initial thought was,’ What am I going to do with a kid? She told Parents TODAY.
I stayed in Florida, away from all my friends and relatives. Getting children was never mine’s thinking. I wanted to get my degree pursue and start a career.
I realized that now I would have to re-evaluate my whole thinking process and I had to find out what to do next. Huge found another surprise during her first ultrasound: She was pregnant with twins.
I cried, said Major, who was the only student to become pregnant over the course of the program. I was crying like no tomorrow. I didn’t know what one kid was going to do and now two!She made a plan immediately: she set out all that would happen when she gave birth and who would protect them when she was in the classroom.
She knew things would be complicated, but manageable but when she met with her director of the program, he told her to take time off and return the year after. She said, I was scared and very surprised. I never thought of dropping out of the program entirely.
The director gave her another option: after the birth of her children she could take off for two or three weeks, but she would still be responsible for her standard workload, and no other accommodation would be made.
Major did not want either choice, and just days after her Cesarean section he returned to university. I had one day during that semester when I was expected to be in class at 8 a.m. I didn’t want to be away from my babies until 5 p.m., just like every new parent, she explained. I felt physically, and looked terrible. I suffered from body aches and incision discomfort, not to mention sleeplessness. It has influenced every other part of her life too.
A month after giving birth, a friend protested about the babies crying in her off-campus apartment, and she almost had to move out. She said thinking about where to stay with two babies was not something I wanted to add to the list of other things that were happening in my life at the time.
Although there were no restrictions on children living in the building, Major moved as soon as her lease was terminated. Stress and anxiety are set in.
Honestly it seemed like there was another situation everywhere I turned, trying to stop me, she said. I felt deeply tired and empty. I had to skip days, when the girls were ill, to care for them. I didn’t have that when I just wanted a break, or to do schoolwork. However, she was getting support from afar, leaning on family and friends in her hometown of Alabama. They still cheered me when I was ready to quit She said.
My father is the reason that I decided to pursue my masters (degree) and that motivated me to finish every day. If I had to break up with someone on how I had to leave, I would have friends and family telling me that it would all be worth it in the end.
She posted a celebratory message on social media on July 20, revealing that she was basically done with her program.I persisted, I just did!, it read.
With the aid of my beautiful girls, I have earned not one but TWO degrees, because if it were not for them, I would never have been able to finish myself. Her commencement will take place in the middle of August. Major will add two degrees to the bachelors of biology she already holds a bachelor of cardiovascular sonography and a master of health science. I truly believe I’m going to cry, she said, walking over that point. It has been a long and difficult road and I’m going to shed tears of joy because I made it finally.